Honestly, I am done with changing for anyone, and I'm not going to accept anyone's bullshit. And that's kind of unfair (I won't change, so you have to). I'm also not a fan of the way men view the care of the household as something they "help" with, which makes me think maybe my next partner, if any might not _be_ a man. But because I deliberately didn't pursue women in my youth, I'm not sure I even know how to read the signals there.

Also, we're in a pandemic, and where I live masking isn't that much of a thing. Right off the bat, a man who doesn't mask in public is a non-starter.