Your husband is not a guest in his house or your life together. You should not have to ask for him to do his share because he's a fucking adult and he should start acting like it. It is not up to you to decide absolutely everything that needs to be done and beg him to contribute. Seriously consider whether it's worth the effort to continue with someone who acts like this. Yes, I get that _most_ men act like this, but there's always being on your own and you could consider women as partners as well. We don't have to accept this treatment from men. Period.